Domestic violence
If a student tells you that they are being subject to domestic violence, including coercive control, emotional or financial abuse. Or you have noticed changes in a student’s behaviour that you believe may be due to domestic violence.
Think, what can you do to support them?
Acknowledge how difficult the situation is whilst validating the student’s emotion.
You could work through with the student some safe strategies. Which could include;
- A safe place to go in an emergency, or if they decide to leave home
- A prepared excuse to leave if they feel threatened
- A code word to alert family or friends that help is needed
- An "escape bag" with cash, important documents (birth certificates, social security cards, etc.), keys, toiletries, and a change of clothes that can be easily accessed in a crisis
- A list of emergency contacts, including trusted family or friends, local shelters, and domestic abuse hotline.
Show support and avoid blaming them or being judgemental.
Listen
Listen to the student, reassure that they are not alone.
Encourage to express feelings and allow the student to make their own decisions.
Signpost / support
There are a range of support options available.
Local services like United Against Violence & Abuse (UAVA) can offer a range of support including counselling, or national organisations such as Women’s Aid can provide refuge.
A Student Services DAI adviser can support with safety, mitigating circumstances alongside emotional and practical support; access by reporting online.